Every now and then I come across a guy who would prefer to fight with me about what a man should and should not do to get a date and keep the woman. The conversation usually goes something like: “Bla bla bla, and women need to, bla bla bla.” Of course you can fill in the blanks.
Fellas, it’s really simple: Just be a gentleman! A-gentle-man. Women are always described as these complex creatures, and while some things may be true, there are a lot of myths floating out there. We really do enjoy the simpler things.
Women want to feel special. If you are interested in making that lady your “baby,” then you have to take the initiative. Simple acts of kindness go a long way and should not stop after the first, second, or even third date. Let her know that you’re genuinely interested in her on a consistent basis.
Now don’t get your boxers in a bunch. I understand that men express themselves differently, and I am not advocating daily boxed chocolates and roses (although a nice gesture, but perhaps a bit stalker-ish). I’m simply stating that you should take the time to show her you care.
Many women feel that chivalry is dead. The moment you start opening doors for her and offering to pull out her chair at the restaurant is the moment she will start to take notice. Be that man! Show her what she is missing!
The number one compliant I hear from women as a matchmaker is that men in previous relationships were dishonest. That can be dishonesty in the form of cheating, the true number children you have, or your true feelings about HER! If you’re not feeling her, just say so! She may not like what you’re saying now, but she will appreciate you for not wasting her time. It’s the gentlemanly thing to do!
Remember, the game of love is not a game. It’s about real people with real emotions. Keep it honest and be a gentleman. It’s that simple.
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