Celebrity matchmaker, Jasmine Diaz offers up her relationship advice exclusively on VeryUnmarried.
Are you tired of wasting time on Mr. WRONG and want to figure out how to connect with Mr. Right? Here’s a few tips that you can use to help you score!
Give In to the Experience
A lot of women, and men, have a difficult time understanding and accepting that if you want to find love, you have to be “open.” What does this mean exactly? Being open means being open-minded; free from all expectations and simply going with the flow.
I am a big believer that one should not expect to meet their future husband on the first date. If that is your expectation, you will likely be disappointed. The chances of meeting your future Mr. on date one is slim, so don’t set yourself up for unrealistic expectations that will not likely be met. Instead, give in to the experience of meeting someone new and have fun!
Know What You Want
Knowing what you want is very different from having a checklist of your perfect man. It means understanding what you are looking for in a mate that does not include superficial ideals. Do you want him to be a good husband and father? A great provider? Someone who is loyal and kind-hearted? You should know these things.
Be clear about the kind of person you desire for a mate and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. Just to be clear, compromising does not mean settling. There is a difference.
Create a Strategy
There is a reason why the game of love is called a game. It’s simple…because it is! But in order to play the game effectively, you must be willing to play by the rules. And like most games, if you can find a strategy, winning will be much easier.
Some will play the game by going to bars where lawyers frequent; hoping to land a single man who is an attorney. Another may attend church regularly by scouting singles groups for gorgeous ladies. Each game played invokes a strategy; some more successful than others. Don’t just go out on the hunt without a plan. Once you know what you want, create a game plan for how you hope to achieve it. Every good idea is well thought out.
Ditch the Checklist
Your “ideal mate” checklist may be holding you back and if you’re going to succeed, you’re going to have to decide which is a priority: the list or the great guy. You’re likely still single because you can’t find someone who measures up to that stupid list and the longer you hold on to it, the longer you will be in the wrong type of situation rather than the right one.
Your checklist is like the Berlin Wall begging to come down, so do yourself a favor and give in. Connect with people who might not be your “perfect” match and you might find Mr. Right instead of Mr. Right Now.
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