Ending a relationship is hard, but if you want to ever find long-term love, you will have to be willing to break things off when you know it isn’t working. If you are struggling to decide whether you should stick it out with your current partner, here are some tips that might help. Ask yourself these questions to determine if it’s time to move on.
Is There a Deal Breaker Involved?
Asking this question is the quickest way to determine if you need to break it off. We all have deal breakers in our relationships. Some examples might be cheating, lying, stealing, or taking advantage of you. Think about the deal breakers in your life and then ask yourself if your current partner has done any of those things. If so, the obvious answer is that you need to let it go and move on. But if there have been no deal breakers yet, move on to the next question.
Can Our Problems Be Fixed?
Think about the main issues you have in your relationship. Are they big problems or tiny conflicts that could be fixed with some effort. If you haven’t tried to talk through your issues, then it might not be time to walk away quite yet. Consider whether a few conversations might clear up the problems before you call it quits.
Do I Really Want it to Work Out?
If you are thinking about breaking things off, you obviously have a reason. It could be that you are upset by something the other person said or did. Maybe you had a fight and you just don’t know if you can resolve your disagreement. But it’s also possible that you just don’t want to work it out.
Maybe you aren’t really interested in continuing in the relationship. Don’t feel guilty if that’s the case. You should never stay with someone just for the sake of having a relationship. If you don’t enjoy being together and you don’t see it going anywhere in the long run, why waste your time? Sometimes it’s just not a good match and that’s perfectly okay.
Weigh your decision carefully and then have an honest conversation with the person you’ve been dating. If you can’t work things out or you just don’t want to try, then break it to the other person gently and then move on. But if there’s a chance that you have something worth saving, give it a little more time. Sometimes a good night’s sleep can change your perspective completely.